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Why I Created
The First 90 Days
Congenital Heart Disease Guide

A structured survival guide for the most destabilizing season of a CHD family's life

Because the diagnosis is only the beginning of what families need to understand

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The Gap

What Families Are Given After a
Congenital Heart Disease Diagnosis

When a family hears the words congenital heart disease, the world shifts instantly. In that moment, parents are handed medical terminology, surgical timelines, and life-altering decisions they had no time to prepare for. What they are rarely handed is structure.

After publishing The Day You Hear the Diagnosis Guide, I began hearing the same quiet question from families who had moved past the initial shock and found themselves standing in unfamiliar territory, unsure of what came next.

What happens now?

That question followed me. It was not a small question. It was the weight of families navigating the first weeks and months after a congenital heart defect diagnosis without a map. The first 90 days after a CHD diagnosis are often the most destabilizing period a family will experience. It is a season defined by uncertainty, rapid medical planning, emotional exhaustion, and logistical complexity that no one warned them about.

I created The First 90 Days After a Congenital Heart Disease Diagnosis to bring clarity to that window. Not inspiration. Not vague encouragement. Clarity. Families deserve to understand what typically happens during those first three months. They deserve to know what to ask, how to prepare, and how to remain standing while caring for a medically vulnerable child.

The First 90 Days Survival Guide

Also available as a professionally formatted, printable PDF ideal for hospital appointments and care team sharing.

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The Structure

Three Phases. Ninety Days.
One Family at a Time.

The first three months after a congenital heart disease diagnosis are not a single experience. They move through distinct phases, each with its own demands, its own emotional register, and its own set of critical decisions. The guide honors that reality by meeting families in each one.

01
Phase One
Weeks 1 to 2

Moving from shock to understanding. Gathering information. Building a medical record. Asking the questions you did not know you needed to ask.

02
Phase Two
Weeks 3 to 6

Building the treatment plan. Surgical timelines emerge. Insurance coordination begins. A path forward starts to take shape.

03
Phase Three
Weeks 7 to 12

Preparing for or recovering from pediatric heart surgery. Long-term management routines begin. Stability becomes the goal.

These months are not just medical. They are logistical, emotional, financial, and deeply relational. The goal during this period is stabilization. Not perfection. Stabilization. And having a framework for each phase makes that possible.

What Each Phase Covers

Inside the Guide:
Phase by Phase

Phase One  |  Weeks 1 to 2

Moving From Shock to Understanding

In the first two weeks, the entire focus should be clarity. Not mastery. Clarity. Ask your cardiology team the precise name of the congenital heart defect, how severe it is, whether surgery is required and when, what the short-term risks are, and what the long-term outlook typically looks like for this diagnosis.

  • Request copies of echocardiogram results, imaging summaries, and physician notes
  • Start a medical binder or secure digital folder immediately
  • Organized records reduce anxiety and prepare you for second opinions if ever needed
  • Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Shock, fear, and anger are not signs of weakness. They are signs that you love your child.
Phase Two  |  Weeks 3 to 6

Building the Treatment Plan

A clearer path forward typically begins to emerge in weeks three through six. Surgical timelines become more defined. Medication schedules are established. Feeding and nutrition adjustments are discussed. This is also the moment to begin navigating the financial and insurance landscape before it becomes an emergency.

  • Verify insurance coverage, deductibles, and out-of-pocket maximums
  • Ask about hospital financial counselors and payment plans
  • Request a social worker or patient advocate if one has not been assigned
  • Ask if the hospital has a congenital heart disease coordinator. Many do. Many families never think to ask.
  • Your responsibility is not to master pediatric cardiology. It is to understand the plan well enough to make informed decisions.
Phase Three  |  Weeks 7 to 12

Preparing for Surgery or Long-Term Management

By this stage, families are often in the final stretch of preparation for pediatric heart surgery, in active recovery from it, or settling into a long-term cardiac management routine. Each path requires something different. The guide addresses all three.

  • Medication accuracy and consistent schedules
  • Follow-up pediatric cardiology appointments and developmental evaluations
  • Feeding, weight gain, and growth monitoring
  • Recognizing warning signs that require immediate medical attention
  • Establishing sleep and daily routine stability for the entire family
  • Writing warning signs down and keeping them visible. Clarity reduces panic.

The Full Resource

Everything Inside the
First 90 Days CHD Guide

This guide was designed as a structured resource that hospitals can share, parents can reference, and caregivers can return to when things feel overwhelming. It does not offer false reassurance. It offers orientation. And in the first 90 days after a congenital heart disease diagnosis, orientation is one of the most valuable things a family can have.

Guide Contents
  • What typically happens in the first 90 days after a CHD diagnosis
  • Phase-by-phase breakdown across twelve weeks
  • Questions to ask your pediatric cardiologist at every stage
  • How to build and organize a medical records system
  • Insurance coordination and financial stabilization
  • Preparing for pediatric heart surgery
  • Emotional support for parents and caregivers
  • Supporting your child's emotional wellbeing at every age
  • Caregiver fatigue and building a support system
  • Financial resources and nonprofit assistance programs
  • Long-term outlook for children with congenital heart disease
  • A personal message from Adrian Adair, founder of Heartbeat Forward

The Human Cost

The Emotional Weight of the
First Ninety Days

Congenital heart disease does not only affect the child who carries the diagnosis. It moves through an entire family. It changes sleep. It changes conversations. It changes the way parents look at each other across a hospital room at two in the morning, trying to hold enough steady for the other one to fall apart for a moment.

The guide does not pretend this away. It names it directly.

Caregiver fatigue is not a character flaw. In the first 90 days of navigating a congenital heart defect, fatigue is the physiological cost of sustained vigilance. The guide addresses it practically, because strong caregivers are not those who never struggle. They are those who build support systems.

Even infants sense stress. Older children feel fear without having language for it. The guide includes guidance on supporting your child's emotional stability at every developmental stage throughout the CHD journey.

Connecting with other CHD parents provides a kind of grounding that clinical resources alone cannot. The guide encourages seeking community, because shared experience has weight that information does not.

Accepting help is not weakness. It is preparation. Rest matters. Eating matters. Stepping outside for ten minutes matters. Your stability is part of your child's healing environment.

You are not expected to be fearless. You are only asked to remain present. And you already are.

The Mission

Why Structured CHD Resources
Change What Families Are Able to Do

Congenital heart defects are the most common birth defect worldwide, and yet many families report feeling profoundly unprepared for the early weeks following a CHD diagnosis. That gap is not just emotional. It is informational. And informational gaps in medical contexts carry real consequences.

When CHD families have structured, accessible resources during the first 90 days after diagnosis, something measurable changes. They ask better questions. They coordinate care more effectively. They experience less paralyzing confusion. They advocate more confidently for their children in rooms where advocacy matters.

Families who understand the first 90 days of congenital heart disease care are better equipped to recognize warning signs early and respond decisively when it matters most.

Organized medical records and insurance preparation in the early weeks reduces financial crisis down the road, when families are already carrying enough.

Structured resources that hospitals can share extend the reach of compassionate CHD support far beyond what any single clinical conversation can accomplish.

Every guide Heartbeat Forward creates is part of a growing library aimed at closing the information gap that CHD families encounter at every stage of this journey.

The first 90 days do not have to be faced without a map.
Families deserve structure in their most uncertain season.
Every small heart deserves a family that knows what comes next.

From the Founder

A Message to Every Family
in This Season Right Now

If you are in the first 90 days after a congenital heart disease diagnosis right now, I want you to hear this clearly.

You are not behind. You are not failing because you do not understand everything yet. You are not weak because some nights you sit in the dark and do not know how you are going to do this.

You are in the middle of something enormous. And you are still here, still asking questions, still searching for the next thing to hold onto. That is not nothing. That is the whole of it.

Take this one appointment at a time. One conversation at a time. One day at a time. Ask questions until you understand. Write things down. Build your support system before you think you need it. Advocate confidently for your child in every room you enter together.

Your child is more than a congenital heart defect. And you are stronger than you know. This is not the end of your child's story. It is the beginning of a different one.

Adrian Adair

Founder, Heartbeat Forward

Author and CHD Advocate

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First 90 Days Congenital Heart Disease Guide

Published through Heartbeat Forward, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. Free and fully accessible to every family who needs it.

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About Heartbeat Forward

Heartbeat Forward is a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting children and families affected by congenital heart defects. Our work focuses on providing compassionate resources, emotional support, and sustained advocacy during some of the most vulnerable moments a family can face.

Through educational guides, care initiatives, CHD awareness programs, and community support, Heartbeat Forward exists to ensure that families navigating a congenital heart disease diagnosis are met with clarity, dignity, and care at every stage of their journey.

To access additional guides, programs, and resources, visit heartbeatforward.org

Adrian Adair
Founder, Heartbeat Forward  ·  Author & CHD Advocate
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Congenital Heart Disease Diagnosis Guide
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Parent Mental Health Guide
Financial & Insurance Guide
Recovery After Heart Surgery
Feeding & Nutrition Guide
Sibling Support Guide
School & Educator Support Guide
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